How To Spot Toxic People And Keep Them Out Of Your Life

Let’s be honest – we’ve all acted in toxic, damaging ways at one time or another. None of us are immune to occasional toxic mood swings, but many people are more evolved, balanced and aware, and such occurrences happen only rarely in their lives.


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There are also plenty of people who are less than emotionally healthy, the kind who manipulate, lie, and cheat. Definitely the ones you want stay far away from. You can avoid lots of trouble by knowing what to look for in a toxic person.

Ending a relationship may be painful, particularly if you have a long history with the person. However, this will help you create space for much healthier and far more nourishing relationships in your life.

Let's see some basic examples of toxic people:

1) They tell you all their secrets during your first meeting

Whether it’s a casual conversation or even a romantic date, people who open up too soon and reveal everything about them often end up being toxic people. When someone gets really close to you, when he doesn't even know you, then maybe he's not that healthy. Of course, it's ok to be an extrovert, but this is something completely different. Things get even worse, if this person say bad things about other people behind their back. Who can promise you that he won't say bad things about you too, when he gets to know you?

2) They want to be the center of attention

They hijack conversations. They never ask questions. They want to get involved to soon. They tell you what they’re an expert in. They tell you what they think. They tell you about their amazing track record. They tell you about their accomplishments. They demand your attention. Truly healthy and kind people wait to be asked. Dominating the conversation often signals insecurity, self-centeredness or narcissism.

3) There’s constant drama.

Some people attract, and maybe need, consistent episodes of crisis, conflict and clamor. They seem to thrive on having a big personal mess to clean up and feel uncomfortable with a calm routine.

4) They are too sarcastic.

Derogatory comments and cutting humor, even if you aren’t the target, signal a lack of empathy or a need to prove superiority.

5) They are constantly trying to control you.

If you feel pressure to act and think according to someone else’s wishes rather than your own, head for the nearest exit.

6) They always blame you and underestimate your abilities

It seems like you can’t do anything right. The other person constantly puts you down as not good enough. They mock your personality, and you feel ashamed most of the time. You only feel pardoned when you take on the traits of the person doing the condemning or judging.

7) They get angry when you want to change something in your life, especially if this means improving your life

Whenever you aim to grow and improve yourself, the other person responds with mockery and disbelief. There is no encouragement or support for your efforts. Instead, they keep you stuck in old judgments insisting that you will never be any different than you are now. This is plain jealousy and you should not accept it!

8) They are drama queens

Some people attract, and maybe need, consistent episodes of crisis, conflict, and clamor. They seem to thrive on having a big personal mess to clean up and feel uncomfortable with a calm routine.

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