15 Signs That Prove You Are Not In Love

Are you in love with your partner or just emotionally dependent? People very often get confused by their emotions. Read the following 15 signs that will help you realize if you're truly in love. If the majority of them are correct, then it might mean that your love is fading away.

1) You’re not excited anymore.

At the beginning of a relationship, your eyes light up with happiness when you see your partner or have a fun conversation with them. Do you feel restless or bored when you spend time with your partner, or do you look for ways to stay back at work or stay out more often with your friends? You’d know you’re not in love anymore if your partner just doesn’t excite you anymore.

2) You want to change your partner into another person.

You might feel that you can change your partner into the person you want to be with, but there are two hard truths for you here: First of all, people don't change when you want them to. Second and most important; if you were truly in love, then you would like your partner for who they were, with their flaws and everything.

3) Your partner irritates you.

Your partner may be watching tv, preparing dinner, or just having a conversation on the phone. It doesn’t matter what they do, but sometimes, you’d just have a sudden urge to scrunch up your face in annoyance or grumble to yourself. You may have no idea why, but the very sight of your partner may start to irritate you.

4) You two don't talk much.

Conversations intimately connect people. If we lose this piece of our relationship, then there is no common ground for us to meet and find each other. Conversations are what make us smart, exciting and sexy to one another. When we start telling outside sources all we used to tell our partner, this is a clue the love is dying. If you reach for your partner to share your thoughts and feelings and there is no interest, to save your relationship, you will need to seek help to get these parts of the relationship in sync again or consider if its time to call it quits.

5) Sex has become a task.

Once sex becomes a task, the love and lust in the relationship quickly go downhill. To stay in love, both partners will need to make the sex an important thing to want to do. Without sex, you are roommates — perhaps a roommate you love but one whom you are not in love with.

6) You’d rather be with friends.

When friend time provides us more love and connection than time with our partner, we are starting down that slippery slope of getting the majority of our needs met outside of our relationship. When all we talk about with our friends is the negative aspects of our relationship, it is a sure sign we have fallen out of or are no longer in love with our partner. When you see this pattern happening, try communicating with your partner about it and gauge their interest in fixing it. Otherwise, you could be headed toward a split.

7) You are not attracted to them.

When you are madly in love, no matter what your partner looks like, you still can’t keep your hands off them. But when you may no longer be feeling the love, you also don’t feel attracted. You find excuses not to touch each other anymore. When you start cringing at the thought of being intimate with your loved one, all signs point to the love being gone.

8) You fish for compliments.

It might sound weird, but fishing for compliments means that what you honestly care about is boosting your self-confidence. Maybe your partner is there to satisfy this need, but are you truly in love with them?

9) You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different. However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your private home. If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

10) You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place. If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then he or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

11) You feel like you're distanced from each other.

When you find yourself tuning out, seeking distractions, and making a conscious effort to avoid connection and intimacy, it’s time to step away from the source of your pain. You might still wear each other’s rings or live under the same roof, but if you’ve severed the emotional bond or you’re slowly letting it unravel, you may as well make a clean break.

12) Negative energy is all around.

Feeling uncomfortable or tense around someone is just your body reacting to the negative energy surrounding the two of you. Negativity can drain you mentally, physically and emotionally. We’re forced to deal with this stuff, but you should reprieve from that type of stress.

13) Your relationship doesn't make you happy

Almost all couples have fights and conflicts and do things that annoy each other. But ultimately, most of them are happier for having their partner in their life. However, if being with your partner makes you feel a lot of things, but "happy" is rarely one of them, it's worth it to reassess your relationship remarkably.

14) You feel that something is missing.

Falling out of love is difficult to explain. It’s not easy to put this feeling into words or even put your finger on it. With that being said, you might feel one thing — that something is missing. Having this sensation of emptiness is a big sign. So, if you’re feeling that something is missing, and it’s not just your keys, it might be that you’re locked out of love.

15) The butterflies have flown away.

Where have all the butterflies gone? When you are no longer in love, it appears the butterflies have flown away. And I bet, you sure miss it. If your partner is sending you sweet loving text messages and you don’t even feel one little flutter, there might be something in the air. And it is not a butterfly. It’s the possibility that you have fallen out of love.