10 Signs That Your Partner Has Been Hurt Too Many Times In The Past

Heartbreak changes us and affects our behavior. We grow a different perspective of romantic relationships and become extra cautious. We feel differently, act differently, and react differently. We unknowingly adopt a more defensive behavior, because of the pain we felt in the past.

People who have experienced many heartbreaks in their lives are hard to date and hard to love. You need to be very careful if you're dating a person who's been hurt too many times.

But how will you know your partner belongs in this category unless they've told you? Well, here are ten signs:

1) They Doubt Everything

If your partner is constantly doubting your intentions, even when you're showing interest in them, they are possibly afraid of being hurt again. They never really think about the possibility of you being serious about them because that is how much they have been let down in the past. They assume things (wrong, most of them) about you even if you are genuinely interested in them. Unfortunately, it needs patience from your side to make this person trust again.

2) They Never Have Anything Good To Say

Even if everything is at least seemingly perfect, they are always looking for a catch to save themselves from trouble. That won't only happen with you, but with every little thing. They see the bad things in people first. They have become negative because they fear of seeming naive and ending up hurt again. It will take them some time to see and appreciate the good things again, but what they truly need is love and affection.

3) They Accept Sadness

All the heartbreaks and ignorant behavior of previous partners have left them perpetually sad. They don’t allow happiness to set camp in their minds and bodies anymore. They are comparatively better at coping with sadness than they used to be before all the heartbreaks. They accept sadness and keep it like it is meant to be for them. If your partner is very sad, you need to try to make them happy again.

4) Romance Looks Funny To Them

Romantic movies become pointless, and couples kissing on the roadside are now stupid for them. And when you say something romantic to them, they might reply with irony. It's not that they don't love you back. They just fear that all this will come to an end.

5) They Keep Secrets

They sometimes don't trust you and keep some secrets to themselves only. Expectations and disappointments have left them so hopeless of any meaningful relations that they decide to keep some things to themselves so that others can't use it against them. You can never truly know everything about someone who has had their heart-broken too many times in the past.

6) They Find It Hard To Express Their Love

If you tell them you love them, and they don't reply back, don't freak out. People who have repeatedly been hurt in the past, won't express themselves too easily ever again. They need to calculate their emotions as well as yours, but when they truly trust you, they will be finally able to let go of their fears and insecurities.

7) They Play And Ruin

Due to having abandonment issues, it is possible that they'll ignore you before you ignore them to prevent any more pain. They play games like this to protect their hearts, but these games ruin things for them as well. If they start doing to you what was done to them and hurt them, it might be a sign that you need to run.

8) Even Love Becomes A Joke To Them

In their worst moments, your partner might tell you that they'll just die alone. Naturally, your partner starts treating love as a joke and stops thinking seriously about it because that's what it has been made for them. Failing more than once often takes all their hopes down, and you might have to try hard to make them hopeful again.

9) They Get Jealous Easily

If your partner has been cheated on in the past, they might become jealous very easily, even if you haven't shown signs of infidelity. That's not pure jealousy, but it's the lack of trust combined with seeing every other man or woman in your life as a possible enemy

10) They Very Secretly Hope

Despite being hopeless and rotten at heart, your partner secretly hopes for things to get better because, after all, they are humans who need love and attention. They secretly hope that you can understand their behavior, and finally heal all their wounds.