The Reason Why Introverts Find It Hard To Socialize

If you think introverts don't like hanging out with other people at all, then you're terribly mistaken.

In fact, many introverts love meeting new people and making new friends.

However, they don't socialize in the same way an extrovert does. Sometimes indeed they find it hard to socialize, as they think in somewhat a different way about socializing.

If you're an introvert and you sometimes feel forced to have a small talk with other people, don't be horrified! You're not the only one, and there's no actual problem with you. You don't hate people, and you're not a weirdo. You just define 'communication' differently.

Here are some things you need to know about being an introvert:

1) Introverts hate small talk.

Introverts don’t want to be alone all the time. They just don’t like shallow socializing. It’s difficult for them to find friends due to the first encounter, which is truly scary, as they worry whether others will like them or think they're weird. The countless thoughts that come to their minds during the conversation don’t allow them to be themselves. They struggle to find the right words. So they sometimes settle with hiding.

2) They can’t stay at home always.

However, introverts know that this is something that they have to live with. They don’t want to go to the gym, but they have to do it for their health. They don’t want to do many things that involve socializing, but it’s important to have social encounters sometimes. In the end, they are social animals, and they need each other to feel complete, right?

3) They try to make a balance

There are periods when an introvert will let their anxiety win. However, there are also times when they'll decide to overcome the fear and uneasiness and go out to meet new people because they know it will be worth it.

They know that everybody has a comfort zone and everybody has to leave that zone now and then for their own benefit. Yes, an introvert's comfort zone is a little larger and stronger to fight, but after all, they need to leave their comfort zone unless they want to end up alone. It takes some effort, but they end up doing it.

4) Socializing is much more than just passing the time.

Extroverts may not realize what socializing really means for introverts. It’s not just passing the time with other people. It’s not spending your Sunday with some friends doing nothing. An introvert could never be so casual. And they will never be.

Because they feel most comfortable when they're by themselves and they can never be as comfortable with anybody else. An introvert is never bored when they're alone – they enjoy it.

Attending parties and meeting friends is not the most fun and fulfilling thing in my life. It comes after a whole process of preparation. Introverts are always trying to become better, to communicate more, to leave their comfort zone as much as they can. And even though they do need their breaks from socializing, they never quit struggling.