5 Characteristics Of A Demisexual

Have you ever felt like the standard game of flirting, dating, and sexual attraction does not quite apply to you?

It is possible that you may be demisexual, a category which fits somewhere in between sexuality and asexuality, as The Independent reports:

"Demisexuals only fancy someone once they've got to know them — they need to feel a strong emotional connection to feel sexual attraction."

While it is a more recent classification (The Independent also states that the term first came into use in 2008) and there is no clear indication on how many people identify as such.

You may believe it applies to you and should consider some of the following signs.

1) Looks Take a Back Seat to Personality

Beauty is only skin deep, they say, and that pearl of wisdom may be one you understand better than most.

While the way a potential partner's looks is frequently the primary motivator for several relationships, you tend to look deeper, searching for an authentic, personal connection over whether or not someone looks "hot."

2) Friendship Comes First

On a similar note, you will find that it's significant to become friends with somebody before the idea of dating or a relationship even pops on your mind.

Any feelings you develop will be a result of shared interests and a dynamic friendship, so this will almost always be your primary foundation for any romance.

3) That First Date Is Super-Important

Because you put so much stock in personal connections, the first date you go on with a potential partner will hold a lot of weight.

Making a good first impression is crucial for almost everyone, to be sure, but you'll likely be taking this first step to a new level.

Expect deep conversations about topics that are important to you (and your prospective partner), along with an assessment of what makes the other party tick.

4) The Idea of Sex Doesn't Hold as Much Weight

You might still find sex to be enjoyable, but if you're a demisexual, you'll also be of the opinion that it isn't the end all and be all of your relationships.

For you, sex is lower on your list of relationship priorities than intellectually stimulating conversation, and you might also tend to fantasize about sex in a general sense as well!

5) You're All About Commitment

When the time comes for the relationship to get serious, you're likely all for it. When the time comes for the relationship to get serious, you're likely all for it.

You're ready to take that proverbial "plunge," and instead of seeing it as something holding you back, you find that strong commitments are intensely gratifying — one of the mainstays of being demisexual.

Reference: Higher Perspectives