Physical Attraction Is Not The Most Important Thing In A Long-Term Relationship

Physical attraction, while significant, is not the sole ingredient for a long-lasting relationship.

This is why at the start, it’s essential to identify whether you’re dating someone out of love or out of lust.

We want to think that we do not choose who to date based on how attractive they were but that isn't exactly the case according to the research put together by Madeleine A Fugère Ph.D. On dating apps, whether we start a conversation with another person or not is primarily influenced by their appearance. Even in three-dimensional circumstances, you might ask your friend for their other friend’s number because you find them cute. Although we have different qualities we look for in a partner, physical attraction appears to be significant to both men and women.

Let's face it; looks are essential.

There is nothing wrong with admitting that. It's healthy as long as it isn't the only quality that matters to you. Because naturally, the honeymoon phase requires a little (or more) work as the time goes on.

Did you ever wonder why you feel giddy in the presence of your partner? Love is a part of it, but there is also something biological in place. GaloreMagazine listed the different chemicals that are involved in attraction but one that gives us a good picture is a dopamine. It's a chemical that the brain releases during pleasurable situations, such as flirting, holding hands, and physical intimacy with a special somebody; they all give us feelings of satisfaction, even to the point of euphoria.

However, the thing as long about dopamine is that it gives us a natural high which gradually declines. When two individuals are together for a longer time, issues start to arise and the intimacy-filled relationship naturally converts into a real-world scenario.

Many people base their expectations from the ever-present pop culture, which were exposed to on a day-to-day basis. We look up to celebrities and their relationships, but this isn't a very realistic source for love and romance. Reality TV and dating shows also give us false expectations of what relationships should be like, and the foundations they're built on. Contestants on dating shows have already been screened to meet certain beauty standards, so there’s no shortage of beautiful people.

Additionally, these contestants mainly seek to further their showbiz careers rather than find actual love. In reality, not everybody we meet is an Adonis or an Aphrodite, and we can’t collect and choose based on appearances.

For two people to last together, there needs to be a deeper connection than physical attraction. Looks might be what brings a couple together, but dating shows cited by Hello Giggles demonstrates that some of the qualities which hold no shortage are loyalty, honesty, trust, sense of humor, and being a caring person.