What traits would you wish that the person your child is dating has? Respectful, kind, and caring, maybe? To some people race is also on the list, but not for Mississipi mom, Heather Boyer. Her daughter has recently begun dating someone new, who happened also to be black and the mother undoubtedly approved because of the way he treated her. He had all the characteristics she felt her daughter deserved in a boyfriend. However, when her daughter changed her profile picture to a picture of the young couple, her mother received a racist text that revealed the sad truth that not everybody shared her views on what mattered in relationships.
Boyer received a text about her daughter's profile picture from somebody who thought she might have an issue with the skin color of the boy her daughter is dating. The mother was taken aback, but instead of responding to the text negatively she chose to share the experience to respond to this kind of mentality and wrote a heartfelt Facebook post:
“Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text ..” I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?” It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that “may not know” Yes, in fact, I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does define who is he is how he treats my daughter? I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.
I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her right. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat..not to a club or partying on the weekends.
I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band; she sits with his family. How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have.
He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not. So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life, and I’m glad she does.”
Image credits: heather.boyer
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