Despite high divorce rates in Western society, the majority of people still want to wed at a point.
If you choose the right partner and marry them at the right time, you can look forward to many happy years together.
Unfortunately, not everyone gets married because they genuinely love their partner and would like to build a life together.
Marrying for the wrong reason is a certain recipe for misery and increases your risk of divorce.
If you are thinking of walking down the aisle, take a close look at your real motives.
Here are four terrible reasons to get married:
1. Your friends are doing it:
Peer pressure is a powerful influence, no matter what your age.
Seeing your friends pair up and get married can leave you feeling lonely, unwanted, and left out.
Accepting a proposal from somebody, even if they are not quite right for you can help you feel “normal.”
In the long run, though, you will be stuck in a legally-binding contract with somebody who doesn’t make you happy.
If your friends make you feel like an outsider just because you are not engaged or planning a wedding, they probably are not the sort of friends you need in your life anyway.
On the other hand, though, in the excitement of planning a wedding, many people do not realize just how much time they spend discussing the big day.
You might need to practice gently steering the conversation away from dresses, venues, and wedding cake.
Along with your friends, your relatives may also pressure you to tie the knot, especially if they are from a conservative background.
It is tempting to bow to family demands, particularly if you’re a people-pleaser who will do almost anything to win approval.
Nevertheless, your family and friends aren’t the ones who will have to live with your spouse!
If you’re contemplating marriage only because other people want you to do it, it may be a sign that you need to seek professional help, which will help you become more assertive.
2. You believe that getting married is the next step in your relationship:
Most of us think that relationships follow a set path:
Dating, moving in together, and getting married.
Most married couples do indeed follow this template, but that does not mean you have to do likewise!
Marriage should be a considered decision, not a box-ticking exercise.
Not every relationship lasts forever, and not all good relationships lead to marriage.
You have to decide what works for you and your significant other.
3. You think a certain age should marry you:
Some people, particularly women, feel they must get married by 35, 30, or some other arbitrary number.
Those expectations might come from the media, family, or friends.
Frankly, those kinds of rules are absurd.
The best time to marry is when you’ve found the person that is right for you.
Your age is irrelevant.
Some only get married for the first time in their fifties, sixties, or beyond.
4. You don’t think you will be able to do any better:
When it comes to choosing a spouse, never settle.
That’s the person you’re going to spend your life with, so do not accept someone who is not a good fit just because you worry that you have no other options.
It’s better to stay single for life than live in an unhappy marriage.
The longer you spend in a relationship that is not right for you, the less time you will have to meet somebody else.
If building a successful marriage is one of your life goals, give yourself as much time as possible to find the right person.
Don’t charge into marriage, hoping that your relationship will somehow improve or that the other person will magically transform into your dream partner.
True love is worth the wait.
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