Everybody is wondering why it is so hard to maintain a relationship and keep the fire alive, but no one bothers to stop for a second and think about it.
Do you want to know why most of the relationships don’t have a happy ending?
We expect our partners to make us happy. Yes, that’s right.
We feel miserable, insecure, and alone. We are unsatisfied with our lives and we get into relationships thinking that being with another person will eventually add real value to our life. We lie to ourselves that being loved by someone will bring us the happiness that we desperately need.
And somewhere down the line, we realize the truth.
Happiness is something that can only be found within us.
You can have the most loving and amazing person for a partner, but if you aren’t happy with yourself first, you will never be happy with them. That’s just the way it goes.
It’s not their fault that you hate yourself. It is not their fault that you are not happy with the way your life is. It is not their fault that you are feeling lost and confused. That’s on you. You are the one responsible for the course of your life.
Your partner is not supposed to fix you or make you love yourself. You are the one who has to find a way to do that.
Finding peace and happiness within yourself is one of the most important things that you will ever have to do in your life. That whole process is meant to be a solo journey. Because that is the only way you'll ever learn to love and appreciate yourself.
Being with the right person won’t help you love yourself if you haven’t already learned that on your own. It won’t quiet down your insecurities, and it won’t calm your fears.
If you are not happy with yourself, you won’t be happy with your relationship.
You will notice that no matter how much you try to ignore your issues, there will be moments when they resurface. You will catch yourself acting overly emotional, jealous, and irrational. You will find yourself wondering whether they love you or not. You will catch yourself being paranoid about them leaving you. You will catch yourself creating unnecessary drama and tension.
You will catch yourself destroying your relationship.
That is why I need you to promise yourself that you are going to start treating yourself better. Your mental and emotional health is something that only you can work on. Loving yourself before loving anyone else is something you must do before falling in love.
We all have our baggage that we carry. But even though our loved ones will always be there to help us with it, we are the only ones responsible for dealing with it.
That is why it is so important to take care of your issues before starting a life with another person.
It does not matter how many times your partner tells you that they love you. If your insecurities inside of you make you doubt everything, that is your problem.
When you learn to accept and love yourself the way you are, you will find it easier to accept the love from everyone around you.
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