One of the worst feelings is betrayal. When you trust someone in a level that you open your heart even in regards to past relationships and behaviors that hurt you, and they do the exact same thing.
Letting your defenses down, demolishing your walls and count on someone not to exploit you is liberating but also extremely scary. Every cell of you hopes that they will not, intentionally, hurt you.
The need to give yourself entirely to someone because you love them deeply, you give more to your partner than you hold for your self. You believe in love, but you know that everyone is innocent until proved otherwise.
That's why being betrayed by a person you trusted with your love is so painful.
When you trust someone, you expose yourself, you provide them with all the means to hurt you just with the hope that they won't. When betrayal strikes, you feel like your whole world has collapsed.
This pain is so profound and changes you in so many levels. Anything that doesn't kill you makes you stronger, it's true, but sometimes to become stronger, you might end up destroying yourself and changing completely. The pain of betrayal can make you lose yourself.
Having to accept the fact that love isn't always enough, it's one of the hardest things to do.
But the person who hurt you the most deserves a big "thank you."
If it weren't for them and their behavior, you would never stand up for yourself. Because of how they treated you, now you know how you want to be treated. By showing you their true colors, they set you free. You learned to set your boundaries and say enough before it's too late.
Because they disrespected your value, now you know your worth.
It's tough realizing that you don't mean so much to someone that meant the world to you. You believed that they would stick with you, that they will love you enough to try and make things work, as hard as you were seeking.
Don't blame yourself for not knowing; just promise to use your newfound knowledge to care for yourself better in the future.
Time is the best doctor. Reveals if we were right or wrong about a person, but it has nothing to do about how much we loved them. Time makes people show their true colors and helps us distinguish the good ones from the bad ones. Time doesn't take into consideration your expectations, your wants. It's ruthless.
Understand better yourself, love yourself, believe in you, and take back control of your life. Find happiness in little things in life, spend quality time with your friends, and let them help you heal yourself. When you are ready, the right person will walk into your life, and it will make sense why it didn't work with anyone else.
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