Relationships are great. When we first get with someone it can be magical and invigorating, however in the long-run things may grow stale and stagnant – while all relationships cool to an extent in the longer-run there are some things we should watch out for. These things should be tackled head on if you want to keep your partnership thriving. That doesn’t mean dismissing someone at the first sign of problems – it means making joint moves to improve both your circumstances.
These are 6 things you should watch out for.
The person lacks a sense of adventure
No one wants to be doing the same thing every day, especially when you are young and want to experience new things. You and your partner (if you are so inclined) should be seeking out new things to do and new things to experience – which will also cement your bond. That doesn’t mean bungee jumping every weekend but it also means not sitting on the sofa watching Netflix every night either.
The person lacks bravery
If a person isn’t brave then how will you overcome life’s challenges together? It also means having the bravery to commit to each other, the bravery to see each other’s weaknesses and the bravery to develop as people.
The person has a lack of hope and optimism
If you or your partner don’t have hope and optimism what positive things can you expect to develop in the future?
Someone who doesn’t think anything good will happen, or doesn’t think the future will be bright, will likely be living a self-fulfilling prophecy whereby they guarantee their own failures. Not only this but it is incessantly tiring to be around someone who constantly puts you on a downer. Of course we all have our down days, fears and anxieties, but if these are all pervasive then this is a very bad sign for your relationship.
The person is very unconfident
If someone is lacking any confidence at all this is a really bad sign for your relationship. It means that they don’t value their worth and subconsciously you may start thinking that you too must be lacking in something – after all why would someone who thinks they are not worth anything be with you unless they thought that you too were lacking in some department? Maybe they just see themselves as ultra-lucky or maybe they don’t really value you.
The person lacks an internal peace
If a person is filled with anger, dread, or a gnawing uncertainty then they are unlikely to be a good partner long-term. Such erratic or neurotic behaviours will store up a huge number of fights, craziness and disruption as you move on with your lives together. An individual must be at peace, or at least on the path to peace, to be a really great partner.
The person lacks happiness
Isn’t that what relationships are truly about at the end of the day? Making others and yourself happy? We all get down sometimes, sometimes even for a length of time, but if someone is profoundly unhappy they will eventually make you unhappy. Should it not be the case that by being with someone like you that at least some of their unhappiness should have lifted?
The most important thing is to build your own happiness before entering a relationship. Your relationship should be a wonderful addition to your life not the sole source of your joy.
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